I share this with you for a couple of reasons. We were told during this time that 1 in every 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. You never know who has been through this and who is hurting. Many people were a blessing and encouragement to me during that time, but there were also people who asked insensitive questions. Because we were in the midst of preparations to move, I was actually asked if I had been lifting things that were too heavy and it caused the miscarriage. Don't try to fix the hurt or solve the mystery of why it happened. However, here are a few suggestions of things that ARE appropriate to say and do:
1. I am so sorry for your loss.
2. Can I prepare a meal for you?
3. I'm praying for you and your family.
4. Is there anything that I can do for you?
5. I'm here for you if you need to talk.
6. Listen without trying to fix the hurt.
Every life is precious. Every time someone asks how many children I have, I say 5 but in my heart I say 6. I may have never held that baby in my arms, but I forever hold my little one in my heart.